We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we’ve established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile – Earl Nightingale

I frequently hear in people’s vocabulary wording ”being the best”!

OK, be it! Yet, I wonder have those people ever themselves what it really means to them, because this phrase can be also perceived as a mental fallacy and rather destructive notably for today’s youth?

Instead, have you ever consider striving to keep improving your traits rather than ”being the best”? Or, to teach kids about real values and to grasp this erroneous concept of the ”success” at very early age? Someone who feels the need to prove being always ”the best”, may consider rather asking himself this question: ”Who said and why do I must be better than you after all?”

On the other hand, people should strive to be happy with other people’s successes rather than torturing ourselves and saying to themselves ”So do I must have it! At any cost!”

Do not get me wrong. It is very fine being brilliant and achieve success in all spheres of your life,however, not at any cost and comparing yourself to others or (even worse) feeling jealously and envy.
If you have not learned so far, please do and know that such destructive feelings will inevitably and by the rule of nature come back to you as a boomerang. Keep that in mind.

Furthermore, individuals who feel the need to be always ”the best” often suffer much anxiety and are actually quite miserable in their life in terms of their inner feelings. Hence, during their inner self-talks they usually tell themselves, “If I am not the best, then I am a failure. I am worthless”. Are you really? Yes, you are as long as you keep thinking this way. Let’s be frank and admit that non of us can claim who is really the best. There is no point in this. Remember that every time you compare yourself to other people is arbitrary. In other words and for your own sake, stop causing yourself miserable life and be yourself!

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart – Helen Keller