Most of us are open to new job opportunities. In fact, various surveys support this assumption and show that more than a two third of people are passively or actively looking for new job. But how do you know it’s time pull the trigger and quit? Your job as an example? I personally worked very hard to figure out the answer. Well, would be much easier if there were a foolproof formula, a one-size-fits-all strategy for knowing absolutely and positively when to bail on something – be it your job, a goal, relationship, in other words, a life path. Sorry, but there is no magic answer. Nevertheless, I have a good news for you in figuring out the right time if you use these to troubleshoot your thoughts and behaviors:
First, know that your super powerful machine, that is your brain is your biggest obstacle. Secondly, how you think provides the super glue that keeps you stuck meaning that you need to take a close look at the habits of mind that are blurring your vision and making you think you should wait just a little bit longer and see how things turn out.
Nobody likes thinking of themselves as a ”quitter”, but there’s no point in staying stuck in something if it’s not accomplishing anything or making you happy. In those cases, it’s sometimes wiser to cut your losses of time and energy.
Now, let’s go back in clarifying how and when do I know it s right time to make a change in my life and live that something? If you’re struggling with knowing whether to quit -whatever it is, could be also personal commitment, an activity, or even a (bad) habit, please consider to ask yourself some questions and I’m sure you will get closer to the answer – if the time is/isn’t right.
So, ask yourself and answer honestly to these questions:
Are you doing this for yourself or for someone else?
Keep in mind that you and only you are responsible of your own life. You are the screen-player and a film Director. Hence, do your best to stay true to yourself. That means if you’re not feeling it, wanting it, desiring it, it is time to let it go. Don’t let the opinions of others make you do anything you don’t want to do.
Is it in alignment with your vision and goals (if you have one?!)
Let’s get clear on this, – you need goals if you want to be successful assuming thereby that your goals are in alignment with who you are and where you’re going. If the answer is negative, ”no, my goals aren’t aligned with who am I” – let go of any activities that aren’t helping you achieve your personal and professional goals and rather spend your mental, emotional, and financial resources where they matter to you. You need goals if you want to be successful–but only if your goals align with who you are and where you’re going.
Do you feel motivated?
Are you motivated in that what you are doing? The last thing you feel like doing is spending your most precious currency nowadays – your time on things that make you feel exhausted,drained,frustrated,unhappy! If you want to be successfully and satisfied with and in your life you need motivation ’cause without this driving force it is very tough, hard and frustrating keep progressing. Why? Because motivation brings us positive expectations, sense of excitement, good vibes and energy, happiness…It simply pulls you forward.
Are you enjoying yourself?
It is linked with your motivation. If you do not enjoy than ask yourself why you are doing it at all bearing in mind that really few things in life are important enough to be worth doing (you know what they are). Great things happen when you’re doing something you love. Would you agree? Hence, if it is not case, it’s time to take action. .
Does it have any utility for you ?
If not, then stop. If that something -again, be it a job, habit, commitment, or whatever isn’t helping you live your best life, and not only this but it stops serving you in a way that is meaningful, guess what? Time to quit, however, do not quit anything over something just because ”it went wrong”! Leave and change or quit knowing you did your best and nothing made it better.
The bottom line is that if you do not want to settle for mediocrity or to be known for anything less than excellence, now you know what to do! Take care of yourself, let others take over until you have what it takes to get back on track. Your true strength shows up not only in the ability to persist as our parents taught us but also in our ability to say ”enough is enough”. Believe me sticking it out when you’re miserable doesn’t make you a better person at all.
You were born with wings. Why prefer to crawl through life? – Rumi