…said Osho! It is so truth!
The other day I received several questions in relation to eternal dilemma we are all having regarding our purpose in life and how to find it. I will soon post separate article on this very specific question that has bothered me for the last several years.
Let’s switch to the questions first …
- What happens if you’ve forgotten how to ”dream” in the sense that you are stuck in life to such an extent that you forgot how to dream?
- Being stuck in between that you must be doing good stuff for others that you’ve forgotten what you want for yourself?
- You carry on banging your head against the same wall, in the hope that you can force your way through, simply because you don’t know what else to do instead?
…an my replies:
Firstly – I am convinced that persons who asked this question believe that these things they are saying are ‘true’ . No, they are not. They are really just ‘sense creations’ that undermine you and actually a great examples of something you are doing that will keep what you say you want from your life.
If a person wants to turn his/her life and experience of life around, it is time to change the conversation you are having inside your head. Time to change the stories you are telling yourself about your life (your current ones undermine clarity, creativity and motivation).
Each of the questions you ask is directing your attention in a specific way. It is directing you into stuck thinking. In this sense each one serves as a piece of debilitating ‘self hypnosis’.
I am going to answer each question as if was not a crappy self-defeating question, but please do not take this as any kind of endorsement of the questions…
“What happens if you’ve forgotten how to dream?”
Simply re-learn. And if your answer to that is ‘but I don’t know how?’ ‘How to’ is never even close to as important as ‘want to’. When the ‘want to’ is in place, the ‘how to’ takes care of itself. Even after saying that ‘how do I learn to dream?’ Asked with the tonality and energy of genuine curiosity would be a far superior question to ask yourself here… See how it directs attention differently? As the old saying goes ‘you get more of what you focus on’.
“Or become so good at doing stuff for others that you’ve forgotten what you want for yourself?”
What a person wants to do is not an immutable static thing that exists for you to forget or remember, it is something you create moment by moment. Back to creation. Back to you choosing to take responsibility for that creation.
What would you like to have happen instead here? Or that you carry on banging your head against the same wall, in the hope that you can force your way through, simply because you don’t know what else to do instead?”
Stop it! Whatever you are doing, at least have the very best relationship you can with it whilst you engage with turning your self and life around – otherwise you drive yourself into low states that do not serve you as a creator or master of your own destiny. Please, do not do this! Instead learn to use your thinking to move you into clearer, more resourceful states of mind for creating and shaping a fulfilling life. This means changing the conversation you are having with yourself about what you are doing… Which probably means changing the kind of conversations you are having with yourself in general.
Have better quality conversations with yourself. Tell better quality stories about yourself and your life! In other words, you believe that you are describing your reality here, but actually you are creating it. You feel your thinking, not your circumstances.
As a general rule, if you are not getting what you want from life, both inside and out, the place to begin is with changing the conversation you are having inside your head and with the world around you, and changing how you pay attention and what you pay attention to in life. That is really crucial to grasp and know how to do it.
To change your life, you first need to change your mind. Good luck in your journey!